But once you’ve reached that point, it’s time to get back in the dating saddle.First, never let yourself feel self-conscious about being divorced. Our society can be a tad judgmental when it comes to divorce, as if it is a sign of failure or weakness. Two people start a marriage with the best of intentions but – let’s be honest – making a marriage last over a lifetime is really, really hard.Till death do us part may not have worked out in your marriage but your children still depend on you to be them for them as a dad and as a father and provider.Coming back to the dating world after a marriage fails can be one of two things: depressing or exciting.For me, the challenge was bridging the gap between being a dad and being a successful provider to my son.I struggled with the amount of time I was able to spend with my son because of the split households, so I tended to throw myself into my job.
I tell my therapy clients to wait at least six months or a year after divorce to start dating again.’ Focus instead on enjoying the moment with your date, and don’t put any pressure on the relationship to be anything more than having fun.Use dating as a vehicle to do some of the things you love to do.The biggest mistake you can make is to try to find another husband or wife soon after your divorce.I’m instantly reminded of my advice to one celebrity, Kim Kardashian, when I read aloud an open letter to her on television’s “Showbiz Tonight.” Before the divorce to her husband had been finalized, she was already discussing whether she was going to marry Kanye West! After a divorce, you should take the issue of marriage off the table entirely.